Listening brings understanding in relationship...

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Heart is considered to the center of emotions. Emotions play a very important role in our life. We ignore the logic when we listen our heart but in reality logic and emotion both are not so separate from each other.There is a mix of logic and emotion which is known as intuition. Logic comes in life from experiences and which helps to rationalize our emotions. This rationalization may encourage to hide our true emotions during people presence. 

We tend to live life without conflict and unwanted attention created from the publicity of the personnel life. Where personnel life become the part of social gossip. In such situation everyone is not ready to face the institutional comments, judgments and praise. Here comes a divide between personal and public life. This may create conflict with the people who are very close to you. They expect from you too be frank at public places but your nature is very shy. You are frank in personnel spaces where you express yourself with confidence. 

Becoming close to reality demands coming out of fantasy and this demands action in life. Action in life changes the way you see things, the way you perceive situation and the way you react to questions thrown to you from the other people.Sometimes we are not ready to face people. It happens generally when we go through internal turmoil. We don't want to share our pain with other people. Educationist Krishna Kumar says "Sharing in relationship increases understanding and knowing the person before us. Knowing any person brings curiosity to know more.This knowing also brings responsibility for the person we know." 

Feeling responsible and taking responsibility is the outcome of knowing any person. Bearing responsibility and fulfilling it is a painful and time consuming activity. That's why we refuse to know the closest person to us. We expect from them to solve the problems of their life of their own. So that we can lead our life peacefully. This is reflected in avoiding to listen people when they share their life to us. We become busy in thinking something else and listen carelessly. The person before us becomes satisfied that someone knows him very well. This feeling gives a sense of satisfaction to lead life happily. 

Without such relations in life we keep on complaining that  no one knows me. No on understand me. Which results in isolation and loneliness and creates a urge to find such people with whom we can share our secrets of life. Which has most painful and happiest experiences of our life. When a person reveals you the secrets of his/her life it means he/she trust you honestly. That honesty should we respected in life and should not be mocked in public for the sake of the self respect of that person.   

The more we know a person the more be love. The intensity of understanding goes with the depth of relationship. Where care, respect and love overpower the feeling of hatred and revenge in the difficult moments of relationship, when it goes through a transformation. Relationship has phases and like a impediment race where the both travel together and face the difficult barriers to take the relationship to a next level. Communication play a very crucial role in creating understand and knowing each other. It is possible through dialogue, where one leaves his brassiness a side and interacts honestly.