Listening brings understanding in relationship...

In the lovely woods

Heart is considered to the center of emotions. Emotions play a very important role in our life. We ignore the logic when we listen our heart but in reality logic and emotion both are not so separate from each other.There is a mix of logic and emotion which is known as intuition. Logic comes in life from experiences and which helps to rationalize our emotions. This rationalization may encourage to hide our true emotions during people presence. 

We tend to live life without conflict and unwanted attention created from the publicity of the personnel life. Where personnel life become the part of social gossip. In such situation everyone is not ready to face the institutional comments, judgments and praise. Here comes a divide between personal and public life. This may create conflict with the people who are very close to you. They expect from you too be frank at public places but your nature is very shy. You are frank in personnel spaces where you express yourself with confidence. 

Becoming close to reality demands coming out of fantasy and this demands action in life. Action in life changes the way you see things, the way you perceive situation and the way you react to questions thrown to you from the other people.Sometimes we are not ready to face people. It happens generally when we go through internal turmoil. We don't want to share our pain with other people. Educationist Krishna Kumar says "Sharing in relationship increases understanding and knowing the person before us. Knowing any person brings curiosity to know more.This knowing also brings responsibility for the person we know." 

Feeling responsible and taking responsibility is the outcome of knowing any person. Bearing responsibility and fulfilling it is a painful and time consuming activity. That's why we refuse to know the closest person to us. We expect from them to solve the problems of their life of their own. So that we can lead our life peacefully. This is reflected in avoiding to listen people when they share their life to us. We become busy in thinking something else and listen carelessly. The person before us becomes satisfied that someone knows him very well. This feeling gives a sense of satisfaction to lead life happily. 

Without such relations in life we keep on complaining that  no one knows me. No on understand me. Which results in isolation and loneliness and creates a urge to find such people with whom we can share our secrets of life. Which has most painful and happiest experiences of our life. When a person reveals you the secrets of his/her life it means he/she trust you honestly. That honesty should we respected in life and should not be mocked in public for the sake of the self respect of that person.   

The more we know a person the more be love. The intensity of understanding goes with the depth of relationship. Where care, respect and love overpower the feeling of hatred and revenge in the difficult moments of relationship, when it goes through a transformation. Relationship has phases and like a impediment race where the both travel together and face the difficult barriers to take the relationship to a next level. Communication play a very crucial role in creating understand and knowing each other. It is possible through dialogue, where one leaves his brassiness a side and interacts honestly.   

Fascinating journey of life...

It was very fascinating journey of life to travel from a location to another location. We used to call ourselves as a Chandrapur team travelling fellows. We started our journey from a tribal districts of Maharashtra known as Chandrapur and we are going to end this journey with a tribal districts of Rajasthan known as Dungarpur. My journey to be fellow started from Madhya Pradesh where i was pursuing my post graduation in journalism from MCU. 

I was very much motivated to work as reporter but the opportunity to work in the villages with schools seems more interesting and i took choice to be the Gandhi Fellow. In the initial days of fellowship, I was very excited to start a new life free from the old fashioned way. In which I used to lead a bookish perspective  was very reserved and well adjusted with the conditioned way of life. Where most of the things were going on my wish, there was a flow of my choice and emotional decision making under the influence of friends and well wishers. 

After arriving here i find that there was a pattern of uncertainty very visible in life. Change was also the logo of my life in accordance with the law of nature. I left my science stream after twelve. I decided to pursue graduation from a well known university and after on year got selection for Banaras Hindu University (BHU). I took the subjects of my own interest that were Economics, Sociology and Psychology. (At that time I aspire to be in civil services.) While deciding my Honors subject I choose economics on the advice of one of my relative. 

The irony was that during the summer vacation i was reading Social Psychology with full interest. I don't consider the interest as a base for making choice for my study. I thought that other people who know me very well have more understanding of practical life but at the same moment i was missing the fact of life that interest do play a measure role in deciding future success of the task at hand.  It's impact was very visible on my study and very soon I found that Psychology was my passion and I have left it behind .

Lost interest in economics left me in the mid-way to read the unwanted course of economics. I do remember that developmental economics and agriculture economics were my topics of interest including the theory part like micro economics and Indian economy. All this diversified interest and sincerity in studying helped me to score well and  i was successful to get first 60% marks of my life, As promised to my father that i will secure good marks in graduation. That seems to be  a very big achievement of my life. 

 There was a very clear message for me that whatever you do in your life consider your interest first and options second. Take advise from wise people but make final decision of your own. You are the best person to understanding of your life. Others can guess only what drives you ? What appeals your interest and passion ? They can advise best on the basis of their experience of life, keeping in mind the current time and popular trends. At last we need to lead your life in our own way  to create real world of our imagination. That will inspire others as well as you when you will reflect on your life's decisions and choices in coming future. This will left a mark  in the book of your own life like a writer.